Healing with Magical Self-Love

Healing with Magical Self-Love

February is often associated with love and Romance. Thanks to Valentine’s Day and its predecessor, Lupercalia, these themes pervade all aspects of our society for this short month. Many of us began our magical journeys with love at the forefront of our thoughts: we wanted to find, attract, or even test the strength of our love. If you’re a spiritual reader, you will know that love is one of the most common themes in reading for other people. 

The connection between love and magic is so strong in our culture, that it even makes its way into our literature and storytelling.

Witchcraft as an Act of Self-Love 

One important aspect that often gets glossed over in the conversation of love and magic is the love we need to have for ourselves. Self-love needs to precede any romantic love, otherwise it lacks a good foundation. Many of us come from cultures steeped in patriarchy and colonization, which encourages our own self-loathing. Choosing to practice witchcraft is in many ways a denial of that culture and a rejection of self-hatred. Walking the path of the witch is a decision we make to empower ourselves, and that very decision is an act of self-love. The rituals we practice show us that we matter to ourselves and that we believe we deserve better. Any magic we perform, whether for ourselves or as a service to others, is fueled and empowered by that self-love. 

What is a Cord-Cutting Ritual?

This month, we wanted to share a cord-cutting ritual for letting go and inner healing. Releasing past relationships and making way for new ones is an act of self-love. Cord-cutting has its roots in shamanism and Eastern philosophies, although cords and knots have been used in spell crafting all around the world. A cord often represents ties to a person or object, and in mythology, it also represents a person’s life. Today, a cord-cutting ritual is performed to release energetical ties to a person, an object, or a memory. These rituals can be beneficial in helping you to move forward from a past relationship or situation that is no longer serving you. In releasing these unhealthy ties, you free up your energy and make way for new connections. The ritual outlined below is designed to do just that.

Cord-Cutting Ritual

This ritual is for anyone who is ready to move on from an energy/person/place/habit that energetically seems to be taking a slow time to transform. Sometimes we get entangled with energy, willingly at one point and time in our lives, but are feeling the call to grow and expand. We are ready for that new beginning but are finding it hard to get that movement going forward or just feel plain stuck and unavailable for new energy. Our conscious minds and hearts are saying “YES PLEASE I'M READY!!”, but the energy still doesn’t seem to be moving. Well cord cutting the energetic ties of the old, outdated patterns may be exactly what you need. It can release you, to then start anew. It may be the last thing that needs to happen for you to move on properly, so the same patterns don’t repeat. It’s a clean start. A resurrection if you will. This time of the year is perfect for this. Releasing yourself with a cord-cutting ritual and resurrecting the pieces of your soul that have laid dormant. Once wholeness is obtained you may manifest more wholeness instead of fragments.

1st- Gather ritual items: 1 white chime candle and holder and fireproof dish, a pair of tweezers or small tongs, 1 small bowl and fill with water, Salt in a small bowl, lighter or matches, Incense or smoke bundle of choice, 4 small pieces of paper or bay leaf, and a pen or ink of choice. 1 flower or offering to be left at a crossroad.

2nd- Set the sacred space. Make sure you set the tone of the ritual by giving yourself private sacred space. Pick a nice quiet space with no distractions, no phones, or extra people.

3rd- Ground. Protect. Connect. Consecrate your space with smoke by lighting the incense and saying a beginning incantation that calls on the elements to awaken the forces within the elements assisting your ritual. Something like, “I call on the spirit of water to come forth and assist in this ritual” holding the bowl in your hands whilst doing so. Set your altar and light the candle. On the 4 pieces of small paper, write the name of the person, place, or things/aspects that you are energetically cutting or releasing on one side of the paper. On the other side draw an upside-down pentagram for releasing of the energy. While the candle is burning focus on all the ways that you see your life as whole and complete. It is entirely important that what is focused on is your wholeness. While the cords are being cut out of your life it is vitally important you fill your energetic space with more of you and where you see yourself going.

Suggestions- Take out a journal and write about where you visualize yourself and your life at its highest and best. Contemplate your soul’s purpose and what you feel called to during this time of your life. As you release you are also calling in your soul’s purpose to take up more space in your life from here on out. You can also meditate or listen to soft music or meditations that are inspiring. This will set the tone for a new way. When the candle is almost burned out fold up all the pieces of small paper with the pentagram on the outside as it is folding in on the things being released. Burn all 4 pieces over a fireproof dish. You can hold them with a pair of tweezers or tiny tongs. Recite if you feel called, ‘I release myself from all negative attachments and I dedicate all thoughts to union.” Thank the spirit of fire and make sure the candle burns all the way out. Next release the water into the toilet then flush or pour down the sink, while reciting the words and thanking the spirit of the element. If there are any ashes left from the ceremony release them into the wind, and again reciting the words and thanking the spirit of Air. Bring the salt from the ceremony and any wax, if any is left, at a crossroads of choice. Preferably away from where you reside. Dig a tiny hole, pour in the salt and wax cover with dirt, and on top leave a flower or offering of choice. Recite the words and thank the spirit of the earth. When you turn to walk away, DO NOT LOOK BACK. Walk with gratitude and know it is done.

Blessed be.

Take some time this month to perform an act of self-love. This cord-cutting ritual can be part of a wider journey to healing and empowering yourself spiritually and physically. Another important tool in your spiritual journey will be a Grimoire or magical journal. Historically a grimoire was used by a witch to record spells and incantations. As Mercury transits through Pisces over the next few weeks, you will want to write down your spiritual thoughts and ideas and record any spellcrafting you perform. Use these magical tools to build yourself up and release anything that is not serving you right now. May we always remember the immutable connection between witchcraft and self-love. 

All materials for the cord-cutting ritual can be found in our online store or at Asheville Raven & Crone on Merrimon Avenue. 

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  • Celestial Contemplations: Energetic Astro-Report for April

    Ward up, because April’s showers are shrapnel.

    Culturally and spiritually, we have just passed a threshold. Ostara, the Spring Equinox, the Witch’s New Year; each celebration rooted in the passage of time and the spirit of renewal- in the promise of longer days and fresh starts. We see this promise mirrored everywhere: in the softening of the earth, in the flowers pushing out of the soil, in the quiet insistence that something new is ready to begin again.

    But April doesn’t stay in that softness. It requires presence. Grounding. Discernment.

    As this month rolls in, we are asked to embody the energy of the warrior. Aries brings passion, courage, and action; the archetype of the beginner, the Fool of the zodiac, launching forward before certainty ever arrives. We are asked to pick our battles wisely, to use our resources well, and to keep our wits sharp. For the next few weeks, we must channel the warrior’s strength and resilience, and refuse to give up on ourselves.

    We begin April with a Full Moon in Libra. Day One, April First, Full Moon.

    This lunation brings our awareness to balance, relationships, and justice. We’re meant to find ways to bridge the gap between our personal needs (Aries) and our partnerships (Libra). This “Pink Moon” encourages emotional reconciliations, acting as a turning point that softens a guarded heart. For many, the dust from battles past; begins to lift, unveiling what’s no longer in alignment- and where we’ve been avoiding accountability in our connections, choices, and long-term patterns.

    Unfortunately, though the dust rises, the situation remains unclear. April 3-5, we are supported in choosing courage over comfort and releasing old attachments. We’re forced to look at where you’ve been over-extending. Because Mercury is still shaking off its post-retrograde shadow (clearing April 6), the first week is about tied-up loose ends and finding mental clarity before the fire starts.

    April 4-9 Mars will sextile Uranus, It is important that you use discernment, avoid projections and look within- really, really, FOCUS WITHIN. Where are you being asked to take radical accountability?

    April 9th- April 18th will act as an “ignition.” April 9th Mars enters Aries until May 18 creating a bridge between your intuition and your physical reality. This transit will will act as an “ignition,” creating “aha-moments” that will continue to unfold with time. This creates a lack of full clarity surrounding the current information. However; this transit also creates a “Stellium” (a cluster of planets) forms in Aries, shifting the global mood from “wait and see” to “do it now.” Expect a massive surge in physical energy, ambition, and the urge to lead.

    Again, we’re asked to practice discernment. To wait for impulse to pass before acting. Other people will trigger you this month, and it’s important you notice your response. Did they “make you angry” or did you respond from a place of anger? This month, external change is motivated by internal change.

    Mid-month carries a kind of energetic distortion. When Mars meets Neptune in Aries (April 9th- 25th), action and illusion blur together. We want to make moves, but we don’t have all the information. We are being encouraged to pause here, to rest, reflect, and wait. This inaction is strategic, rather than stagnant. Purposeful. Justice requires clarity. Not every impulse is aligned.

    Now, I can hear my own internal voice screaming. “What? I thought it was GOOOOO time? Haven’t we been stuck in this holding pond long enough? Mid-April, and you still want me to wait?!” So, I feel called to mention; unlike the heavy winter months, April’s energy is not static, or stagnant, it’s a live wire. We’re not still because we’re stagnant, we’re still because we’re smart enough to navigate the energy well. April’s action requires strategy.

    Don’t despair, There are many moments of support woven in throughout the month. April 10-16 Venus will sextile Jupiter, creating one of the most pleasant transits in astrology. Venus (love, money, beauty) dancing with Jupiter (expansion, luck, wisdom) creates a “feel-good” atmosphere.

    On April 13 will create A “Golden Window” for luck, money, and socializing. It’s the most harmonious day of the month. When Venus in Taurus connects with Jupiter in Cancer, there’s a collective softening. A reminder that life is meant to feel good, that safety and pleasure are signals of wellness. After so much movement and internal friction, this moment offers a reset. A chance to come back into the body. To remember what stability actually feels like. Bask and savor in the joy of life.

    Because April doesn’t let us bypass the deeper work.

    The sun conjuncts Chiron (April 9th-19th); creating a Chiron Cazimi in Aries. This transit is a big one, and it brings old wounds tied to identity, self-worth, and permission to the surface. This wound asks, Where are you still waiting to be chosen? Where are you asking for approval instead of claiming space? Where are you still looking for a right to exist?

    By acknowledging a vulnerability, you actually gain power over it. Because the fear of being “too much” has never actually been about truth- it’s been about safety. And April makes it harder to hide inside that story.

    This is where the narrative starts to shift; because April 12-14 Mercury will Sextile Uranus and then enter Aries until May 2. Mercury moving from dreamy Pisces into fiery Aries means the “mental fog” lifts. Communication becomes blunt, fast, and decisive. If you’ve been stuck on a problem, expect a breakthrough. What comes up may be tender, use compassion. Trigger points lead us to deeper self awareness, aligned in time with the New Moon on April 17th.

    This new moon in Aries is a really big deal because it begins a new cycle. As the first new moon after the Astrological New Year, it encourages authentic action and stepping into leadership. It is uniquely characterized by a conjunction with Chiron, blending courage with vulnerability to heal, and a strong influence from Pluto to release old, heavy burdens, paving the way for a transformative new chapters.

    We are meant to tap into our most authentic impulses, shed fears, and step boldly into our own authority. With Pluto in play, this phase helps break down old structures that no longer fit your life, allowing you to let go of what holds you back. Be brave, and choose your path forward. This is a time of radical reinvention, and bold commitment to choices that honor the person we are becoming. This moon was sent to reignite us. It is arguably the best day of the year to launch a brand-new venture, identity, or project.

    On April 19, the Sun enters Taurus. The energy slows down. It’s time to take the wild ideas from the New Moon and build a practical foundation for them. However; April 19–20 Mars & Mercury Conjunct Saturn. This is a "stop-and-go" energy. You have the drive (Mars) but hit a wall of responsibility (Saturn). It requires discipline rather than just speed.

    This results in a tightening energy. Action meets consequence. Mars wants movement, and Saturn wants control. Impulse meets structure. There’s friction here, but it’s purposeful- this conjunction asks us to take responsibility for what we’re building, rather than chase random impulses.

    Following this tension, communication follows. Mercury conjuncts Saturn April 20th. Thoughts sharpen. Conversations carry weight. Communication may feel like a verbal obstacle course. What we say- and how we say it- matters.

    April 23rd Venus conjuncts Uranus bringing our attention to our values. Here we may find freedom from attachment to the material, and a greater value placed on the collective whole.

    By the end of the month, the energy shifts again. We are asked to be present and curious. April 24th, social energy becomes lighter, more curious, and more flirtatious.

    Uranus makes a major and long-term move into Gemini on April 25th, breaking open new pathways around information, communication, and perception. After 7 years of seeking stability through external structures, something begins to unravel. As we move from Taurus to Gemini, the question becomes less about what feels secure-and more about what feels true. This transit will have a huge lasting impact, and will continue until 2033.

    April closes at a crossroads.

    When Venus in Gemini squares the lunar nodes, we’re asked to choose. Between what is real and what is familiar. Between movement and stagnation. Between the life we say we want- and the patterns we keep returning to.

    This is the work of April: Not just beginning again. But choosing, consciously, how you move forward from a place that is grounded, honest, and fully yours.

     

    May Hekate Guide us at the Crossroads and illuminate the path ahead.

    And so it is.

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  • Aries the Ram

    Aries the Ram

    Our Zodiacal year begins with Aries, the Ram. In mythology, the figure of the Ram is lively, energetic, courageous, and inventive. It lives in rocky terrain with ease and can leap over any obstacles it encounters. The story of Aries the Ram begins in Ancient Greek Mythology.

    The Golden Fleece Ram

    The constellation of Aries originates with the myth of Phrixus, Helle, and the golden-fleeced Ram. At the threat of being sacrificed by their step-mother, a magical golden ram was sent to rescue Phrixus and Helle, who climbed onto the ram’s back before it took flight over the Mediterranean. Unfortunately, before they got to their destination, Helle fell off the Ram’s back and into the sea. Her watery grave was named Hellespont in her memory (now known as the Dardanelles). When Phrixus arrived in Colchis, he sacrificed the ram to the King Aeetes, who hung the golden fleece in an oak grove dedicated to the god Ares. This golden fleece becomes the center of another myth, where Jason and the Argonauts make a hero’s journey to retrieve the fleece.

    Ares, God of War

    The primary Greek gods who rule over war are Ares and Athena. Athena is also the goddess of wisdom and strategy, representing the side of war that requires planning and wit. Ares, on the other hand, is known as the hot-headed brute, representing aspects of war that are led by gut feeling and passion. Understanding this dichotomy between the two gods of war allows us to better understand the attributes of Aries, the zodiac sign, and its planetary ruler, Mars. 

    Harnessing Fool Energy

    The symbolism of the Ram and the qualities of the God of War inform the characteristics of the Zodiac sign Aries: the hot-headedness of the god Ares and the heroism encapsulated by the golden-fleeced ram are integral to Aries energy. Also wrapped up in this archetype are journeys to faraway lands and the overcoming of obstacles. There is a child-like curiosity in Aries, and a hunger to explore and progress forward. Aries is led by gut instinct, and it has strong fire energy, making it resilient to challenges.

    The Aries archetype is closely related to The Fool in Tarot. It is the act of beginning a new journey, specifically in a gloriously unprepared way. There is no prior knowledge to work with: it is simply about starting, just as Spring leaps forth from the dead of Winter. When we think of The Fool, we position them as the hero on a journey through the Tarot. Likewise, Aries is the hero starting the journey through the Zodiac, through the new cycle of seasons. Aries is a Cardinal sign, meaning that it initiates, and it does so with fire energy, led by passion and instinct. This is certainly the energy we need coming out of the hibernation of winter and into the new Zodiacal year. How are you harnessing Aries energy as we move into Spring?

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